We have a word - compromise - and it's often bandied about when two parties cannot agree to something. The way forward, it is suggested, is to compromise. To both Give Up something to the other.
But is that the reality? Do both parties really give up something of value to the other party?
The answer is...
NO!
What actually happens is... one party give up something of value and the other party gives up how much it wants (something of no value).
For example: The Boss is offering a 10% pay rise and the employees want a 15% payrise. They are paid $500 a week - the boss is offering $50 a week rise and the workers Want $75. It is agreed that they will both compromise - the boss will go up to 12.5% and the employees will go down to 12.5%.
But all that happened is, the boss Lost Out and the employees gave up nothing except a Want and thus only gained. The boss is out of pocket $62.50 per week per employee and gets nothing in return except the employees agreement not to want $75 a week. It's Win Win for the employee and Lose Lose for the boss.
What about in a court case?
Same. The Compromise just sees the plaintiff agree to take less and the defendant pay less. Either way, the defendant still pays and the plaintiff still gains.
Compromise is really about one person Gaining Something Of Value and the other person Losing Something Of Value. There is no true compromise where both give up something of value to the other. A Have always ends up giving to a Have Not. The Have Not has nothing the Have wants.
Be aware of this the next time someone suggests to Compromise.
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